Forgiveness

Is forgiveness always unconditional? Are we always supposed to forgive people who hurt us? If we forgive them, who will be benefited? Is it them or us?

Forgiveness is giving up our resentments toward the other people. It is treating them as if nothing happened. It means acting toward them like there was no problem at all and that they had not wronged us in the first place. It is all about releasing the anger...the bitterness...and the rage.

This is why forgiving is so difficult to do. Injustice had taken place. What they have done is unlawful. They have wronged and hurt us.

Let us face the reality that whenever we feel pain, what we are looking for at once is revenge against that person. We no longer think about the consequences of our acts. Our desire is to make them feel the same way as ours. The blame and hate cause us to feel the need to destroy another’s life.

In times like this, we must always remember that no one yet has been made happy by resentment and bitterness. If we also hurt and wrong people, nothing good will happen.

If we cannot forgive those people, we give them a power they should not have. A power that keeps their evil alive in our hearts that suffer.

Forgiveness is a Divine act. When we forgive, we free ourselves from the pain...the shame...and self-pity. It gives us chance to become healthy once again. We heal ourselves from, sadness. Thus, we are the ones who will benefit when we forgive.

Is it Love or Infatuation?

           How can we tell if someone is in love or simply infatuated? When are feelings said to be mutual? What is the difference between the two?

          Telling the difference between the two is not really easy. There were many misunderstandings between them. Sometimes you might feel a hundred volt of electricity within you when you see your special someone. You want to always to talk to him, to take walks, and to laugh with. What a great and exciting feeling, isn’t it? You might even say “I’ve found my real love! This is it! I’ll never let him go”. Then after few time and realization, you become disappointed that it did not even last.

          Infatuation is the false front of love. It takes time before someone could say that you are just infatuated. Emotions are unleashed when a young man is visually attracted to a young lady, but they do not constitute love.

          Following are some indicators if you are truly in love or just infatuated. Some of them were from my mother who said that she based it in her own experiences and observations.      

1. Love develops slowly.

Just like every living thing, love needs to be nurtured before it can be fully developed. Emotions felt a first sight can only be said as infatuation.

2. Love controls desire for physical contact, but infatuation explores it.

Yes, it is hard to control the feelings toward our love but we know our limitations. God’s plan for our lives includes limits. While in infatuation, a kiss could lead to more and more intimacy.

3. Love centers on one person only while in infatuation, it considers the others around him.

An example is a suitor who looks at a girl here and another there. This kind of man needs to know more about his emotions.

4. Love is selfless, while infatuation is selfish.

In love, both protect each other. In infatuation, one doesn’t care as long as he is contented with what he gets from the other.

5. Love motivates behavior, while infatuation does the opposite.

Love inspires, infatuation weakens and destroys. Someone may be unconcerned and irresponsible when it comes to infatuation.

6. Love survives separation, while infatuation easily dies when put to a test like distance.

In love, absence makes the heart grow fonder, while infatuation does not.

7. If it has to end, love does it slowly.

In love, every trace of your relationship is important and deep. Infatuation ends rapidly. It easily came, it easily goes, too.

Strange emotions are truly common in both love and infatuation. Differentiating between the two is tricky. In times like this, know yourself and be sure on what you feel. Don’t get easily fooled by those feelings because if you do, discouragement follows. Also, never forget to ask God’s guidance.

Do not worry, you will find your true love at the right time. :”)

Head Injury Is Linked to Depression

A study found that victims of head injuries were more likely to suffer from major depression even decades later. Researchers say that within a year of a head injury, people are susceptible to depression. It is believed that brain lesions caused by head trauma can also increase the risk of Alzheimer’s disease and other forms of dementia later in life. Depression shortens life span and decreases the quality of life.

-Leonardo C. Heyasa, Jr.

Teen Depression May Have Links to Television Use

TV has become a great scapegoat for these stressful times. But is a teenager who watches hours of daily television more likely to become depressed? Yes. In study conducted at the University of Pittsburg, researchers interviewed 4,142 adolescents – none of whom showed signs of depression at the start – and found that, when they checked in with them 7 years later, 7 percent of the adolescents had developed signs of depression. Finding correlation: The depressed young people watched more television than those who weren’t depressed; an average of 2.64 hours of TV a day versus 2.28 hours per day for the adolescents who weren’t depressed.

---http://www.pressofatlanticcity.com/life/Monday_health/article_fc481983-bfaa-515a-b956-f9beb4d15bcb.html

A Message that Caught My Attention

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FUNNY Quotes XD

A really good friend is someone who mails you an unsigned birthday card so you can mail it again to someone else’s birthday!

Begin everyday with good breakfast, and you’ll always be late for work.

Beware of love triangles-most of them turn to wreck-tangles.

Bad breath is better than no breath at all.

Help a friend in need and she’ll never forget you, especially when she is in need again.

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